We’ve played a bit with e-stim before. I got frustrated at the lack of control a bit, and not being able to get to “too much!” in the use of it. I always tend to seek out that line – the too-much-line – so you know what the full range is that you have to explore.
SO, I went on a hunt. Find a different machine, different approach, and try, try again.
And I did. We did. And we found that line… Continue reading “E-Stim… Electricity, and Me.”
There’s a disconnect in my brain about feeling sexy and being interested in sex. I can feel sexy and still not be interested. I guess, in general, I’m not interested if I don’t feel sexy, but that’s actually not usually an issue. Continue reading “F is for Feeling Sexy”
The line between want and need is blurry at best. Most of the time I think the line wanders between the two and sometimes they are the same thing. Continue reading “C is for Connected”
I’m an all or nothing kind of person. I don’t know if it is astrology (Scorpio), autism, wanting my own way or all of the above. Continue reading “L is for Libido”
I am not really known for my patience. I tend to get frustrated with inanimate objects that don’t cooperate–Snake just silently comes in and takes it usually–and I hate waiting when I can’t see the reasoning for waiting. Continue reading “P is for Patience”
Were we always kinky? Yes, definitely. Were we always kinky the way we are now? Not really. Continue reading “K is for Kinky”
When I think about the foundation of our dynamic, the first word that comes to mind is trust. Continue reading “T is for Trust”
When I first started thinking about this prompt, all of the quotes talked about making sure you have low expectations to avoid being hurt or disappointed. While that way be true for the “outer world,” I don’t want to live that way within our marriage and dynamic. Continue reading “E is for Expectations”
Headspace is a weird thing for me. When I saw the prompt, I thought about how that all comes into play when, well, when we play. I immediately went to “Sub-space” – but I am learning that there is actually more to it than that. Continue reading “/s Headspace”
What do I desire? I’ve been asking myself that question since I saw this prompt and I still don’t know if I have an answer. Continue reading “D is for Desire”
We decided to write this as a she says/he says because Snake and I actually have very different views on blindfolds and masks. Continue reading “B is for Blindfolds”
It seems that intimacy is always touted as a couple thing–like you can’t be intimate with different people in your life. Continue reading “I is for Intimacy”
I am spoiled. Totally admit that. Snake takes care of most of the house chores except cooking and he does that on Saturdays if we are cooking at home. Laundry, cleaning, garbage and lately even grocery shopping. Continue reading “Expectation of Service”
I was having a conversation with a good friend online this morning, talking about the differences between kink and sex and how all of these things weave into relationships and how we see and are with our partners. Then, they said the darndest thing. Continue reading “Inter-Dependency and Kink”
I was so excited when I saw this topic because I get to share pictures of my favorite subject: Snake.
[Snake: Sigh.] Continue reading “Tell Me About: Collars and Cuffs”
I try to think back to the very beginning of our relationship and pinpoint a time when there wasn’t a pretty distinct power exchange. I don’t think there was one even long before we knew “what” a power exchange was. Continue reading “Tell Me About: The Power Exchange”