The Things We Do …

Minds are an interesting place. Or, at least in my case, MY mind is a strange place. I am constantly looking at this or that picture or video or reading a post or story or book and thinking….

Oh yeah? Well, what if we went to the next step? What IS that next step? What would that be like? How would that work… then my brain devolves into this animal mode thing of irrationality and obsession…

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My first thought, being non-religious, was nope. We don’t do rituals. I tend to think of them as parts of the experience of religion which doesn’t really have a part in my life. Yes, I have a Christmas tree so I suppose that qualifies but it doesn’t feel ritualistic in my head.

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Words That Change My Life

I’ve been thinking a lot about the words that build out your core. The things that stick with you and get in the way of simple decisions, forcing you to reconsider and make sure your choices take into account your history, your past, your goals.

I try to avoid the over-thinking and re-analyzing of stuff. I don’t succeed, but I try. 🙂 But, if I think about things that have had stronger impacts on me and that form more than a single type of direction or decision, a few things stand out.

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Near Misses and Kink Orbits

I’ve been thinking a lot about how D/s and all of this has woven into our lives – it’s a huge piece of our responses, our reactions to thing that happen in daily life. And, you also see it literally everywhere in the kink space – from Fetlife to Twitter and other spaces. People lean on their D/s side, their kink side, to help right the ship of life when things get choppy.

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Room 101 – Fears, Domme-side and Life

I love that this Food for Thought Friday ties to George Orwell and 1984. This was one of my favorite books as a tween. I was raised by a father who thought that all small children should be read classics and I vividly remember him reading Kim by Rudyard Kipling to me when I was 5. So, it is no surprise that I read all of the classics that I could find.

I don’t have a lot of fears. [Snake: I can vouch for this – from a sexy-time perspective and a life perspective] I do seriously dislike jumping bugs. I hate driving but definitely more of a control freak issue. Anything I can’t control as much as possible makes me uncomfortable. But I can’t say that it goes to fear.

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