Expectation of Service

I am spoiled. Totally admit that. Snake takes care of most of the house chores except cooking and he does that on Saturdays if we are cooking at home. Laundry, cleaning, garbage and lately even grocery shopping.

He makes sure that I get my baths most nights, which includes filling the tub, putting in a bath bomb, getting my water, Kindle and phone and bringing in coffee when it is ready.

He takes care of the house repairs that are necessary and will either make sure that he is here to deal with the people or that they can come and go without interaction with me. Car repairs and maintenance as well. And if there is a phone call that needs to be made, he does it. Phone calls are my worst thing ever–it takes me days to get prepared to make one.

He is responsible for refilling my water glass and making sure that I have anything else to drink that I want. He does my manicure and pedicure every week. And backrubs several times a week. Of course.

That said, he did most of that excluding the laundry and cleaning before we officially started FLR and D/s. He does these things because he likes to take care of me even though he knows that I can and have done all of them.

So is there an expectation of service in our dynamic? Yes and no. He enjoys doing these things and I enjoy NOT doing them. And, quite often they are accomplished while he is naked so there is that perk.

If you had asked me back in February, the answer probably would have been a pretty definite yes. There are punishments and rules associated with getting these chores done when I want them done. And those are enforced when life is normal.

Since the middle of March, the rules and punishments have been pretty loose. He has been doing most of the things that are daily, but there have simply been days when his schedule wasn’t allowing it and I did them. I’ve taken over laundry on a few days because he just couldn’t get it done and things needed to be folded or washed. There was a third person in our house working that messed up the schedule as well.

So, I guess the answer is that the expectation is there because it is part of “us,” but it is also flexible. I do think that the punishments and rules are pretty close to returning, which I think is a good thing. It gives structure to our lives and reinforces the D/s dynamic on a more regular basis. But until his work life gets a little more calm, we are just taking it one day at a time.


13 Replies to “Expectation of Service”

  1. I think one of the beauties of a power exchange is that the roles are clearly defined and so many of these things happen as part of that. We have also felt the need to adjust these past months as the structure and routine is different. Being able to do things for the other often supports the mindset I think so it can be really helpful. And whether the actions are rooted in serving or nurturing, they are usually about meeting the needs of the other in some way. Thanks for adding to Tell Me About 🙂 missy x

    1. Life has been challenging for everyone but it’s still nice to feel like you are taking care of each other

  2. I love the way Snake takes care of you, even down to a mani- and pedicure. That’s really beautiful. Also that the service part of your dynamic is flexible. It is for us too, for as far as we have defined it as ‘service’.

    Rebel xox

  3. I’m envious he gets to do all those things. I wish I was in a position to do them for her. And one day at a time is all we can do right now

  4. Lovely post – and structure is so important in a partnership of any kind – it is true rules and punishment can often play an important part to maintaining your persona status quo

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