There are many aspects of This Thing We Do (TTWD) that *seem* really mental or *seem* really physical. But so many times, it ends up being both.
For me, that’s the case with impact play. Honestly, I went into it thinking it was a mental “game” – just dealing with it and that I could get past it. But the physical side of things surprises me every. single. time.
I’m “in training” I suppose – I’ve had times where we warm up and I feel pretty good about my control and response and even love it. But then the times that come with no warm-up… not my favorite thing. I’m still working on those times.
This is one of those times. I feel like I’m slowly getting better, but then I slide backwards sometimes.
And that damn wooden spoon. I hope it burns in hell some day. Mostly because it burns LIKE hell when it’s used on me. I was thankful this wasn’t one of those times.
Still, after not so many smacks, and working to stay put (and get back to the right place), things were pretty rosy.
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But that doesn’t stop me from dishing it out that way. 😉 😛
Why am I not surprised!? 🙂
Depends on play vs. correction. Sigh.
Lovely! The effort is the key, I think.
Being spanked hard with no warmup is a difficult experience that I crave and treasure. (Try it 2 minutes after an orgasm for extra … value.)
I find that pacing can very much alter how well I can handle it–going slowly and pausing actually makes it worse for me. When it’s swift and relentless, I can surrender to it more easily, though of course it stings a bit.
Speaking of “stings a bit” my *favorite* wooden spoon is an olive wood number we got at Sur La Table. Dunno whether it’s shape (it’s more spatula than spoon, but does have a slight curve) or wood or finish, but it’s significantly stingier than other spoons.
Yes, pacing definitely matters. I don’t know that I crave and treasure no warmup, but I do those with warmup, but it’s a lot of effort (for her) to get there (for me), I know.
This spoon is a round spoon with probably a 12″ handle on it. Don’t really know why, but the difference is stark. I still think her favorite implement is the crop.
It probably is…although the spoon and my favorite paddle run close seconds. 🙂
I wrestle with the same thing. I know I have to learn to lie still and take it, but often I can’t. I agree with Charmer that pacing is the key. When Mrs. Lion’s pace is a bit slower, I am much better at accepting the punishment. We have a big, heavy wooden spoon too, but it isn’t her favorite. She likes more traditional paddles. There is never a warmup for punishment.
Could someone kindly explain what an impact game is please? When I have sex with my lover he sometimes uses a table tennis bat that stings
I think “Impact game” is just a different word for “impact play.” By Impact Play I mean things like spanking or flogging or those types of things. Things that are based in spanking but have different tools you use. It could be a wooden spoon or a wooden paddle or a flogger or a strap or cat-o-nine tails or a crop, etc. All of those really fall under “impact play.”
So, if you’ve played with a table tennis paddle, it’s the same thing. That sting, the mix of pain/pleasure, etc. That’s what it’s referring to when you see that phrase or term, “Impact play.”
I hope that helps!
Oh that does, thank you so much, the mixture of pain and pleasure is something newly discovered but funnily greatly enjoyed