I’m by no means an expert. I look at where I have to go, and where others are, and I’m in awe of their devotion to their partner. I’m Hers, Thumper and several others show just how important, and how hard, it is to be in the right mind set. To be aware of the change in lifestyle, when you go the FLR/M route.
For us, it started as play time. It started wanting to experience more and to try new things. I’m sure over time we’ll get into the steps along the way to get where we are, and will be talking about where we’d like to go. But right now, I’m fascinated by the changes to date in our now-33+ year relationship.
I’ve really struggled with the term “submissive.” I’ve never seen myself as submitting – in fact I’m an alpha in nearly every bit of my life… except at home. I don’t consider myself a switch, and I’ve come to understand a different kind of inner “peace” (how cliche’ is that?) with the /s/ side of me. But still, that word. Submissive. It has such meaning – you “submit” to so someone by giving in. You “submit” to someone for their approval, for their acceptance, for their OK to continue.
But with this lifestyle, and I’m talking FLR stuff at the moment, with a healthy dose of D/s, it is one of the hardest things for me to say about myself. I’m a submissive. Not in a “I’m less than she is” way, but in a choice way. I am hers and I try to make things I do, for her. I see it really as a license to invoke chivalry. I love that thought. The idea that I get to hold doors, put her coat on for her, take it off when she doesn’t need it, take care of her… it’s magic.
We continue to define how we interact. In the bedroom, in our lives, in our hobbies. The whole lifestyle has infiltrated most areas now (it’s been 16 months since we started in earnest, Thanksgiving-ish of 2013). Decisions are hers, with input from me. We love each other very much and are respectful, even when playing. She’s a natural Domme and I have come to know and understand that I’m naturally submissive in so many of these areas.
This blog will be about all of that. And more. The mind games that come from it for me (and for her) are intriguing and fascinating. Getting used to things. Trying things. Yes, submitting. This blog will go into that, talk about those things, my experiences, hopefully her experiences as well, and try to share just a bit about our lives in this corner of the universe.
4 Replies to “What I’ve Learned So Far”
Welcome to the blogosphere. Nice to see you here *smile*.
GREAT to see you here.
*waves to both of you* Look Charmer a lesbian just did Snake from “behind” bahahaha
I never got a chance to see the development of this specialness so I’m starting wayyyy back here. *cues eery stalker music*
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